Embrace The Unpredictability!!! Lift Your Spirits....

 Trin... Trin... Trin.. the alarm keeps on buzzing @ 5.30 a.m. when I was making the coffee to kickstart my day... (sometimes I wake up before the alarm reminds me... 😜) 

With the cold sip of coffee( to stimulate my body in the chilly winter morning), I buckled up my shoes & started running on the streets... The freezing wind and the sweating physique made my morning blissful; random exchange of smiles, anonyms waving friends, healthy surroundings naturally lifts the spirit... 😊😇 

On my way back to home, I went to the cafe with my diary to list down the spontaneous thoughts or say kuch kahi ankhai baatein... 

Randomly I just smiled at the guy on my opposite table & to my response he smirked @ me... 😏 But I had a strong intuition about him as if he is struggling badly from inside... although its none of my business to poke into someone's life, yet I decided to just hear him out so that he may wear his heart to my sleeves and may feel better....

I grabbed the chair to sit in front of him and he was furious as if he gonna smash me right on my face as I sat without his permission.. so before he utter a word, I started the casual conversation to distract his aggression... And as you know I am very good with people (not boasting yaa 😉)😃😄 I anyhow convinced Karan (his name) to open up his mountains of pains and obviously he did... 😊

So here goes our conversation:

Karan: I am having a contradictory life coz whatever actions (each and every act) I do, it bounces back with the adverse results...  Yaar I dont want the way the life is treating me everytime.. why only me...?! Things are like completely unpredictable...say for instance...

Ø  I am scared of taking any decision no matter how small or big it is as I am unaware of its effect or say I don’t wish that my decision should turn the table on my misfortune and again laughs @ me

Ø  I don’t understand why I feel lonely even my people are around me.. feels like detachment coz I cant spare much time with them knowingly or unknowingly...

Ø  Sometimes the working environment also sucks as it disturbs the work life balance…

            Nothing good happens in my life... 

Me: Look dude, first of all you are not the only one in this world struggling with problems.. each living being is fighting even for the basic needs.. & people like us are truly blessed... 

• Dont think about the cause and effect relationship of every situation that you encounter...
• Stop making assumptions in life...& embrace the unpredictability buddy... you will definitely see atleast some good things coming out for you. Lets talk about some recent real life instances...

• We all got closed to our family during covid in one or the other way - sharing innumerable things with family that perhaps we would never do or being playful @ home with all the members or say learning new things, may be like being the helping hand in the kitchen or becoming the self dependent for own chores, experimenting new things - something out of the blue, etc, etc...
• Hybrid or work from home culture made our lives easier and even balanced (at least a bit) - a positive occurrence due to covid 19

Remember while studying in school or college we never use to plan or predict the things.. we always make things happen spontaneous like:

• bunking the class, 
• playing pranks on fellow mates and teachers, 
• unpredicted trips or small vacations with pals, 
• roaming on bikes @ late night, 
• having ice-creams in the chilled winter @ 3 a.m. & obviously fallen sick the very next day and many more things that we cant count yaa..

Yes , we actually make all those things happened and enjoyed that moment, so why not now??  Life is in the moment only buddy & for each one of us it will be different, yet we have to embrace it and keep the spirits up to Feel Alive & Live Awesome; kyunki , "zindagi 1 safar hai suhana, yahan kal kya ho kisne jana..,haste gaate jahan se guxar, duniya ki tu parvah na kar, muskurate hue din bitana, yaha kal kya ho kisne jana"

Have Fun - Your Life , Your Way

 

I was tuning my guitar to play some new random tunes & suddenly the doorbell rings… guess whoz there on the door; it was her (the crazy bee) my bestie.. she rushed inside and plop down on sofa and I was like hey watch out its my sofa yar plz have some mercy on it ;😂 … then her reaction tell something different.. oops someone seems like an angry bird…

Initially I was a bit scared coz of her groaning face so I started talking to her gradually… look @ your face babes, it seems like someone has splashed a water on you while you are walking down the street with the new clothes and you swear on that idiot… oh no, I guess I made her anxious now so I directly come to the point…

C’mon tell me now ... I cant bear any more suspense and then she bursted and worn her heart on my sleeves… “Do you know how you feel when someone is hampering your fun and constantly nagging into your life?” No matter whatever you do or wherever you go, the third eye and third ear follows you always…why cant people mind their own business and let others live happily? Why every time you need to answer their unnecessary and irrelevant questions?? Is it compulsory for them to poke their noses in each minute matter too… as if they gonna ask you our breathe count also… I mean seriously… I feel like running somewhere or ask them to get out….

After calmly listening to her, I interrupted her, “relax and chill..” to cool down her tempo I told her lets have some cold coffee and snacks, music .. a sort of complete hangout, fun and dhamaal…

So until I made a cold coffee and grab some plate for snacks, she was shuffling through magazines and tv channels in disgrace… as soon as I approached her I warned her not to speak and listen to me.. and then I began…

You know what just stop being nice and saying ‘yes’ to everything that comes to you … be kind always but no need to be nice and. Be honest, direct, sometimes rude and disliked, say No for yourself …. its completely ok.

I recently read this from a very good novel and learnt that “Stop buying the culture that hampers your individuality coz how we think, what we value – those you must choose yourself. You cant let anyone or any society determine those for you.”

After all its 1 life and 1 chance & I truly believe on Gaur Gopal Das theory , “ Making a few adjustment here and there, if we can improve relationships adjust. But if you are the only one who has to adjust always consider stopping it.”

With this conversion, real song hits the phone, “Apne jahaan ke hum badshah hai, masti bhara yeh apna jahaan hai…” 😎😈 dog always keeps barking pal & there will be plenty of them around…

Whats next!!! Well , she cheered up, understood the essence of her own existence and ignore  we laughed, we listened and rock on my another favourite song, “zindagi 1 safar hai suhana, yahaan kal kya ho kisne jaana.., maut aani hai ayegi 1 din , jaan jani hai jayegi 1 din , aisi baton se kya ghabrana, yahan kal kya ho kisne jaana..” 💓💓 Tata and see you in my next blog... and ya definitely awaiting your precious comments and thoughts too... 🙋

 

 

Yesss.....!! You r the BEST & You r also SPECIAL...!!! 😊😊😊

I had a cup of coffee in my one hand with headphones in ears and tapping the feet on the lyrics of the music saying - "koi hero yahan, koi zero yahan, koi estar hai, koi bekar hai, main kaun hun , tumse mein kya kahun, hai sach to ye dostoooo - I AM THE BEST...(3)" mast song na...here, a thought strikes my mind and it goes like....

Morning Buzzz....

Alarm buzzes but, I am sure its immediately snoozed or switched off.... loll

You are sprawling on the bed and your mom is yelling, 'still sleeping like kumbhkaran even when the sun is on your head... snatching your blanket and opening the curtains...😁😁 You are forcefully waking up, stretching your arms and still yawning... suddenly you are all awake with mom's smack😜😜'

Then while watching the clock, you hop out of bed, shouting on mom saying why she didnt woke you up a bit early (although she is screaming from last half an hour)... You gathered all your energy to get ready for your college, match, office or any task that you are getting late for.... with a bag in one hand and a mouth filled with half sandwich (or any other breakfast or a sip of milk, tea, coffee or juice) and by now you are out of the home...

Now you have reached @ your destination....

You receive your grades or score or appraisal and everybody start comparing it with one another...few faces light up while others become dull and start panicking with a flood of thoughts like where is the loophole, why I cant learn flattering, why the destiny is always against me, why I always stay behind and on and on and on..... isn't it?? 

Despite being grateful of whatever is received, the comparison acts as negative reinforcement but, who initiates it!? Its You , Me and Each one of us....

Not only @ workplace but, even in surroundings or in social life, people always sees the best in others and its easy to exemplify:

• Gossiping @ marriage function - My son / daughter is an engineer / doctor (emphasizing more on science stream and considering the people from commerce or arts stream are worthless or less skilled)

• Whispering @ office - He / She achieved more than what they deserved coz boss favors nepotism (but why cant you see the dedication and efforts behind his/her success)

• Siblings comparison - One of them is always outstanding in all the tasks while, the other is an average (the other one has their own ability like painting, dancing, speaking, writing - this reminds me of tare zameen par that make us understand - every child is special)

• Personality - Look at her attire .. impressive and perfect according to the function although she is the cunning person in the event and everyone is aware about it but, people wont miss a chance to boast her....(what matter the most is what's inside rather than outside... be aware of pretenders)

• Earning grudges - Look at him/her, he/she is earning more than you or has a better lifestyle...like seriously!! (Although not much money , but yaa peaceful sleep and satisfaction at the end of the day matters...Do I need to remind that - No one can achieve anything More Than Luck and Ahead of Time...)

• Missed the winning - A match lost by 1 run or a century missed by 1 run... so close na... What a shame, this is the fourth time he/she misses the century and team lost the match, dont know why he/she is always selected in the team as they always misses the chance and team has to face the defeat... (Those who speak even dont know the pressure on the field and the pain behind losing the closest victory even the fifth time..)

Ohh c'mon .. give me a break ....

In Satyug and Dwaparyug also the competition exists and people were surviving and living happily, then why can't we?

Relax and take a deep breath... You are no better than anyone else and, no one is better than you...

I reckon the saying - "Comparison is the thief of joy" - Theodore Roosevelt

Everyone has their own usp, each one of us is special, we just need to give the best shot in whatever we do and never let anyone anyone deter you... Read and imbibe this Bhagwad Geeta Chanting...

Believe in yourself and ignore those who (secretly) are always envy of you, your skills, your ability and thats why they compare, thats why they try to dissuade you .. coz they dont know how to make a move and they are afraid of yours, they dont know their usp and thats why they are scared of yours, they dont know how to draw their own line and thats why they are removing yours....

So what is your something? What are you good at? Coz I know you are the best in your skill and it makes you special... Find it and shut those mouth with your action and achievement coz life always gives a fair chance to everyone...

I recall another lyrics here which is somewhere its in the middle of the song...,'koi galat ya kahe sahi, hume kisiki parwah nahi, jaye jahan bhi leke zindagi, we got to go that way (2) Ale..."

Lets go to the way of being the way we are.. "BEING JUST YOU"

You may believe it or not, but I know., I am the best 😉😉😉 and mein apni favorite hoon..😍😍😍 and a lil bit special of my readers too ... hahahaha...

Catch yaa soon with my next blog... Awaiting your comments and feedback here...